Necessary action

Necessary Action for Growth and Happiness

“They will say commonly, meddle not with many things, if thou will live cheerfully. Certainly there is nothing better than for a man to confine himself to necessary actions; to such and so many only. … For since it is so, that most of those things, which we either speak or do, are unnecessary; if a man shall cut them off, it must needs follow that he shall thereby gain much leisure, and save much trouble, and therefore, at every action a man must privately by way of admonition suggest unto himself, What? May not this that I now go about, be of the number of unnecessary actions? Neither must he use himself to cut off actions only, but thoughts and imaginations also, that are unnecessary for so will unnecessary consequent actions the better be prevented.” ~Marcus Aurelius

Necessary Action

What is or isn’t a necessary action is a complex matter.

There are those who argue that we should take no actions at all in the sense of trying to change or prevent anything. If we see someone being murdered, robbed, or raped, we should just observe and do nothing. They say that everything is happening as it should and we have no business trying to interfere. I call that the driftwood philosophy. The idea that we should just float through live like a piece of driftwood and contribute nothing. Be as worthless and as pointless as we possibly can.

On the other side, there are those who think we should get involved with everything and learn from everything. Nothing is taboo or pointless. The problems with this philosophy are two. First, you wear yourself out trying to do too much and consequently accomplish little. Second, by trying to do everything, you do things that should not be done at all. Like the punk in Washington D. C. some years ago who shot a sixteen-year-old boy who was just mowing the lawn. When caught, he said he did it because he had never killed anyone before and wanted to know what it felt like. Some knowledge is not worth gaining.

Our Own Necessary Action

Exactly how much each of us should get involved is something that varies and we each need to decide for ourselves. Some things can help. As Aurelius says, before getting involved ask if the action is truly necessary. Sometimes, though, even if action is necessary, we may not be the best ones to act. If we don’t have the skills and knowledge to resolve the situation, it is often best for us to let someone else handle it. Even if we have the skills, there may already be enough people working on the problem and we should move on to something else. Also, if we spread ourselves too thin, we don’t devote enough time to anything to really help.

It’s a lot like trying to decide which charities to support. There are so many charities that do good work that if we supported each with only a dollar, it would cost thousands! So we all pick just a few to help with. We must do the same with our actions. Continue reading “Necessary Action for Growth and Happiness”

relaxing by the sea

Relaxing for Peace and Clarity

“They seek for themselves private retiring places, as country villages, the sea-shore, mountains: yea thou thyself art wont to long much after such places. It is in thy power to retire into thyself, and to be at rest, and free from all businesses. A man cannot retire better than to his own soul; he especially who is beforehand provided of such things within, which whensoever he doth withdraw himself to look in, may presently afford unto him perfect ease and tranquility. … Afford then thyself this retiring continuity,and thereby refresh and renew. … What remains then, but that thou often put in practice this kind of retiring of thyself, to this little part of thyself; and above all things, keep thyself from distraction, … but be free and consider all things.” ~Marcus Aurelius

Retiring Places

What Aurelius is calling “retiring places” doesn’t mean a place to go when we retire. Or at least it is not limited to that. He means a place where we go to relax, unwind, escape our busy, everyday lives. It is what a real vacation is all about.

When Aurelius was alive, the sea-shore, the mountains, or a quiet villages were possibly the only choices one had for doing this. Now we are fortunate enough to have many more places to go to unwind and relax. We can hike in a forest, visit an amusement park, or take an ocean cruise (my personal favorite), just to mention a few possibilities. But not all leisure activities are relaxing. One must choose carefully if that is the goal.

Into Thyself

Marcus wisely points out that there are internal as well as external options for relaxing. In fact, all relaxing is internal, though it may be stimulated by external things.

Some of us can afford to take vacations to the sea or the mountains only occasionally. Others can’t afford it at all. That doesn’t mean they cannot relax and escape the hustle and bustle. They have to go inside themselves to do it. They can practice forms of meditation and visualization specifically designed to let them escape. Continue reading “Relaxing for Peace and Clarity”