“Looking at everyday human interactions, imagining how many times we cast spells on each other with our word. Over time this interaction has become the worst form of black magic,and we call it gossip.
“Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison. We learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were children we heard the adults around us gossip all the time, openly giving their opinions about other people. They even had opinions about people they didn’t know. Emotional poison was transferred along with the opinions, and we learned this as the normal way to communicate.
“Gossiping has become … the way we feel close to each other, because it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as badly as we do.” ~Don Miquel Ruiz
Ruiz feels that when we tell someone something that isn’t true, even if we believe it is true, we are, in a sense, casting a spell on them. It is casting a spell because if we convince others to believe things that are false, we affect their view of reality. This is true even when we believe that what we are saying is true.
It starts with parents teaching the infant what they believe. Then teachers in school add to the trance. Friends and others add even more. The result is we have a mental landscape within us that is based almost entirely on opinion, not fact.
Ruiz says the worse form of casting spells with our words is gossiping. It makes complete sense to me. When we share things we believe to be true, but are not, we are at least trying to be honest. When it comes to gossip, we know that most of it is false or highly exaggerated. If we share it anyway, even saying that it is just gossip, we are not only programming others with lies, but encouraging them to do the same. When others know that what we are sharing with them is gossiping, we are telling them that gossiping is acceptable. And when kids overhear adults gossiping, they are taught that it is the normal way to behave and communicate. Continue reading “Gossip: Most Accepted Form of Black Magic”