“I would not exchange the laughter of my heart for the fortunes of the multitudes; nor would I be content with converting my tears, invited by my agonized self, into calm. It is my fervent hope that my whole life on the earth will ever be tears and laughter.” ~Kahlil Gibran
There are some who believe that when they become enlightened individuals they will live in total bliss, total joy, never having a sad moment, never having a need for tears except possibly tears of Joy. Gibran, a very wise man and spiritual teacher, knew better.
Of course, it is perfectly normal to dislike the sad moments in our lives, the moments that made us cry. We wish that the love who broke up with us never did so. We wish that our family members and friends never died. We wish our pets lived as long as we do so we would have no reason to grieve. But think about it for a minute.
In virtually all cases, those sad moments, or sad times, when we were brought to tears in our sadness, are the result of an ending to a period of great happiness. The breakup of a relationship would not bother us if it hadn’t been a joyful and loving one. The death of a family member would not bring us to tears if that person did not bring us happiness while she was alive.
If we think about it even more, we will find that those periods of grief and sadness using end with the start of new opportunities for joy. After the breakup, we meet someone else we are more compatible with and have a more loving and happy relationship. After a friend dies, we make new friends. After a pet dies, we have an opportunity to adopt another and bring joy and a rich life to another.
In short, everything is cycles and laughter and tears are the two sides of the same coin. Gibran understood this, so he had no desire to eliminate either from his life. Hopefully, you too wile understand this someday.